Wednesday, 12 December 2012

Christmas Traditions Part 1 - The Old


I'm a big lover of traditions, especially the family kind that have real history and lots of memories behind them. Christmas always brings out the nostalgic side of me and I love the comfort and happiness I get from carrying out old traditions

I have lots of festive traditions which began with my family years ago but I also have some new ones that I've started myself in recent years. I enjoy them all and I love the routine of them - they are part of the reason I look forward to Christmas

My family always made an event of decking the tree. We'd pick a Friday night and we'd light a fire and listen to Christmas songs whilst putting up the tree, lights, and other decorations. I remember these nights with great fondness, everyone was so happy. We had two little West Highland terriers, Max and Leo, and we'd wrap tinsel around their necks and dance with them. They would go for their Christmas bath and haircut the week before Christmas and they would always come back with big red and green bows around their necks then too!

My sister and I would always be allowed to open one present on Christmas Eve, chosen by our mum as it was always a new pair of pyjamas. We'd have an early bath and sit in front of the fire wearing our new PJs and eating mince pies whilst watching Christmas TV

When we were little, before the days of video cameras, my parents used to record our Christmas mornings on a tape deck. We have our pre-video Christmases on cassette tapes and I'm looking forward to sharing them with my children one day. We always spent Christmas Day at home with various family visiting throughout the day. Sometimes my parents would hide Christmas gifts around the house for us to find throughout the day - I remember one year lifting my table mat to find a folder containing details of a pony they'd adopted for me from a local horse sanctuary, that pretty much made my year!

My mum would cook a huge roast turkey with all the trimmings and my dad's parents would usually come and have dinner with us. At tea time we'd have a cold buffet, which my sister liked to prepare, and we'd all be absolutely stuffed but there was always room for pudding. At some point we'd all get wrapped up in coats, hats, scarfs and mittens and take the dogs out for a walk, wearing their bows or tinsel of course

Things changed after my mum died and Christmas at home was never quite the same, although we all did our best to make it enjoyable it was as if the shine had disappeared from it. There was no getting away from the gaping hole that had been left at the centre of our family and it just felt sad. Of course it's got much easier now that so much time has passed and we've started new traditions of our own but I don't think Christmas will feel right again until the next generation come along and are old enough to make Christmas all about them

We're one of those new-fangled 'blended families' now as we have my soon-to-be-stepmum and her grown up children (and grandchildren) in our little circle too, which makes quite a number of us. We've all had Christmas together a few times but it's incredibly hectic having 16 or so people in one house, you don't feel like you really get to speak to everyone properly and it's catering on a massive scale! Last year Matt and I had Christmas alone together at home and that didn't feel right either. I feel like I'm still trying to find out what Christmas should be like now and I haven't quite found it yet

The year before I met Matt, my best friend Liz was house sitting over Christmas so I took Jessie and went along with her. We spent Christmas Eve in a hot tub sipping champagne and later, watching films in front of a roaring fire. The next day we put our Christmas dinner into huge bloomer sandwiches which we devoured like animals!

Do you have any Christmas traditions?

20 comments:

  1. I like this post very much. Though I can't believe you got a freakin' pony for Christmas! Saying that, I got my cat for Christmas 3 years ago from my Mum so maybe she was waiting until she was certain I could look after another life without accidentally ending it before gifting me with animals ;)

    I'm sorry Christmas hasn't been the same without your Mum, it sounds like she made this time of year very special. Christmas stopped being exciting for me after my Dad died 11 years ago, but the joy of the whole thing has come back in full force since I've been with Luke. Still trying to figure out what our 'traditions' are though xx

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    1. I didn't actually get a pony - just an adopted one that I could go and visit etc. I was a really pony-mad kid!

      It's hard when one of your parents is no longer around and I think Christmas always reminds you of the loss. I'm really pleased to hear the joy has come back for you now and I'm sure you'll have your own traditions before long xx

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  2. Lovely post Rachael :)

    I cannot imagine what it must be like at Christmas with out such a close loved one, but I guess it must get easier and there are always the lovely memories that you must have and that we all one day will have.

    I don't know if we have many traditions in our home, everyone is always so busy right up until Christmas Eve. I reckon the one thing that we do like doing together, well, particularly me, my mom and my sister is going to fetch the Christmas tree. We always have a real one, I adore the smell that you get from it each morning, and it’s just perfect.

    I have felt out of the loop the last two years, I've lived away from home so I've always literally gone home three days before Christmas so I've missed out on just the simple things such as watching tv with mom and seeing all the Christmas adverts. As well as going shopping where all the Christmas tunes are on in the shops, I took for granted these rather little things but this year I'm missing them incredibly so.

    I go home in 9 days and my oh my I'm looking forward to it!

    Amy xx
    http://alittleboatsailing.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thanks Amy. It's always the little things that you don't realise you love until you don't have them any more isn't it? Hope you have a lovely Christmas at home xx

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  3. I love reading these kind of posts - strangely, quite a lot of people have the pajama opening tradition [and I thought it was just us]. ;)

    I can't even imagine what Christmas [or life] must be like without you mum. I hope this Christmas feels like Christmas should for you!

    Merry Christmas!

    Alex xo

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    1. Me too, I thought it was just us! Thanks Alexandra, have a lovely Christmas xx

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  4. I cannot imagine what it is like to lose such a huge part of your life. I would be lost without my mam. It's great that you focus on the good memories that you shared together.

    In my house we have a lot of traditions, some have stayed and some have changed. This year has been hard for me as I will be getting home in the afternoon on Christmas Eve. I've missed out on a lot of things our family usually do together. I travel a lot with work and am currently sat in a hotel room in Tokyo. It's kind of hard to muster up some christmas spirit when you're so far away from home xxx

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    1. Oh I really felt for you when I read this! I hope you get to spend plenty of time with your family when you do get home xx

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  5. I love this post! having the Christmas at his parents or mine dilemma just now!! I've had Christmas at my parents since forever and I can't imagine not being there!!
    Xx

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    1. That is so hard! I hope you get to have it at your parents ;-) xx

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  6. You write beautifully. I love this post :-) and i can still remember the Christmas bloomer sandwich........ it was a whopper!!! Christmas hugs coming over xxx

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  7. We do the new pyjamas thing every year too haha, this made me smile! Also, hot tub Christmas sounds awesome (: xx

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    1. Ha ha, who knew? I thought we were so unique! xx

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    2. It's so you look your best for Father Christmas apparently, which just seems creepy in hindsight. Still, I'll be 22 in April and my mum still buys me some pyjamas every year especially for Christmas eve so I shan't complain haha xx

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  8. Rachael I love your writing this is such a lovely post! It sounds like your mum made Christmas so special, I hope it gets easier for you and that you have a wonderful one this year. xx

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    1. She did :-) Thanks Eleanor, have a lovely Christmas xx

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    2. She did :-) Thanks Eleanor, hope you have a good one too xx

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  9. I loved this post so very much, sort of made me fill up a little bit!!! (weird i know!!) I completely understand the not knowing about traditions feeling. I have only been with my boyfriend for two years and its only our second xmas together - living together too. Last year we stayed here in our little attic house and although at the time i thought 'ahh yes a really peaceful quiet xmas - just us' it was weird, and i sort of missed the chaos.

    I hope this year you have a fab one (and you write a lovely post just like this al about it!) ;) xxxxxx

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    1. It's strange when you are away from your family, like you say the peace is nice but then you miss the madness! Have a lovely Christmas xx

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